Furthermore you reveal the unfortunate things that you have experienced in your life that have made you more vulnerable to homosexual temptations (e.g. abandoned by biological father, abused by step father).

When I say that “homosexuality” is a choice, what I am saying is that it is not God’s fault. In fact, none of the sins that people struggle with (and everyone struggles with something) are God’s fault. They are ours. And until we take ownership of that fact and stop playing the victim, we can never live victorious lives.

The fact that you have a love affection for men does not necessarily mean you are gay. You have simply lacked that male bonding that every man needs and crave male relationships.

There is nothing wrong with loving another man. There are many in my life whom I love. However, just because you love another man does not mean that love has to be taken to the level of sex, which then makes it homosexuality.

In justifying their behavior, gay people many times like to point to the relationship that the Biblical character David had with Jonathan where he wrote that “his love was better then that of a woman.” They assume that David and Jonathan were sexually involved which is not the case at all. They simply had a very deep and intimate friendship.

CJ, I’m sorry that you feel unhappy, miserable and alone. I would encourage you to draw near to Christ and be completely satisfied in Him. In fact, God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him. And really that is what victorious Christian living is – when we are completely satisfied in Christ and need nothing else – the relationships, the things, health, success, or whatever.

Christians ought to live their lives in such a way that if all we had was Christ and his salvation and nothing else, that would completely satisfy us and fulfill us.

I would also encourage to take your struggles to the cross and lay them at Jesus feet. Many times we try to fight battles on our own by our own strength and will power when in all reality Jesus invites us to cast our burdens upon Him.

Finally I would say to your statement that “you are not sexually attracted to women at all” that this might be a healthy thing. What I mean is that unless we are in a marital relationship, we should not view women as sex objects. In fact in the Church, every woman is a sister. So should we be sexually attracted to our sisters? of course not!

Rather in developing a relationship with the opposite sex that may eventually lead to marriage, the man and woman should first develop a friendship. The sexual attraction can come later.

That was they way it was for my wife. As we were dating and eventually engaged to be married for over a year’s span, I was her friend, her best friend at that. It wasn’t until just a month or two before we were to be married that she actually started to feel any kind of “sexual attraction” towards me. And now some 18 years later, we are still best friends and the act of sex itself is simply a celebration of that love and friendship.

God bless you CJ for sharing and may God continue to keep you pure in all things as you strive to walk the straight and narrow path towards Him.

THIS is the kind of rejection I have lived with and I am honest enough to admitt that it has indeed scarred me for life and has ruined my image of a father as I have never known a fathers love.

When I was a young boy I thought I liked girls ONLY because everyone else told me I should, but in my body I felt other urges towards men which really confused me. I wrestled with it for many years as I grew up reading scripture and know full well what the bible says about it.

I tried to live a life of celibacy for many years because I was afraid to go to hell just because I like men instead of women.

This situation has affected every area of my life. I have no friends, I can’t establish any solid relationships, I’ve never experienced actual love from anyone (except my mom),
I have been lied to, spat on, betrayed, laughed at, stabbed in the back by everyone I ever thought was my friend both in the world and in the CHURCH.

When I try to get close to a person, they sense that something is off about me and they scared off.

Sometimes the loneliness I feel manifests itself as physical pain and it feels like my soul is bleeding from an injury I have no power to heal.

Although outwardly you would never know I was a homosexual as I am not effeminant in any way, but I struggle with this every hour of every day of my life and I know that in order to be acceptable to God (whom I love very much) I have to CHOOSE to be unhappy, miserable and alone and live in SOLITUDE.

I will NEVER be a heterosexual as I am not sexually attracted to women AT ALL and I DON’T WANT TO BE.

But I have to choose to sacrifice experiencing love and companionship in order to please the Almighty God’s law.

For you to say that a person CHOOSES to be a homosexual is not fair…I’m not evil,nor demon possessed,I would NEVER choose this for myself or the misery and torture that it brings…It’s an afflication that I was dealt and although it’s the hardest of all sins to deal with, I have to find a way to be victorious so that I can be accepted into the kingdom of God, even if it means I will never have a soulmate or any real friends. I have to completely deny my sexuality and live in solitude and sadness whilst watching everyone else enjoy the kinds of relationships I’m not allowed to have…in the end, how is that fair to me?, as I am gonna miss out on so much of life that the rest of you get to enjoy and take for granted…just like I missed out on knowing what it’s like to have a real dad who loves me. now that I’m grown it’s too late for me to have a Dad.

Alas not my will, but God’s will be done.

To argue about whether one can be born gay is a topic that will side-track the real issue, and that is that Jesus died for all sins and all sinners. I have been a Christian for most of my life and have never been able to separate myself from the struggle of lust and addiciton to pornography. I recognize that these are sins and at times I am able to keep them out of my life, and at other times they make their way back in. I would argue that the lust is a natural phenomenon that I was born with, and the addiction is the result of allowing that natural sin nature to control my life in my younger years.

Homosexuals are no more or less sinful than another person in God’s eyes, and whether or not they are born that way or caused to become that way through the actions of themselves or someone else, their sins are still covered by the blood of Christ. We hope that a homosexual who turns to Christ would be able to turn away from that sin, but it’s very likely that they will always struggle against it in some way even if they are able to resist acting on it.

As Christians we must love homosexuals to Christ just as we would love anyone else to Him. Getting in a sinner’s face about his sin is not going to make him run to God, so we need to stop demonizing homosexuals, and start loving them as Christ loved the tax collectors and prostitutes. Once they see God’s love and accept Christ as their savior, then GOD will work in their hearts to deal with their particular sin lifestyle, just as he works in mine.

Well done.

Same is true of women – visa versa that is.

Besides this, I know three four homosexuals, three men and one woman who turned their lives over to Christ and today are living heterosexual lives.

Finally, I would like to add that if it was natural to be homosexual and if it was okay with God, don’t you think He would have given two men and two women who wanted to have a sexual relationship the ability to reproduce?

I mean, that would be pretty cruel of God to discriminate against homosexuals because they cannot “make a baby” wouldn’t it? Why limit it to a man and woman, unless it is UNNATURAL for man to be with man and woman to be with woman.

Therefore you are comparing apples to oranges as homosexuality is a behavior choice – not a birth defect.