Why The ‘I Was Born Gay’ Argument Is So Wrong

One of the core doctrines of pro-gay orthodoxy is that homosexuals are born gay. In other words, God made them that way so “gay must be okay.” Even though science has failed to affirm or deny this, the vast majority of gays and their supporters are convinced of it.

An article I recently read entitled “Five Logical Errors of Born Gay Ideology” got me thinking more about this. While I’m not going to comment on all five reasons the author gave, I would like to touch on one and that is homosexuals’ argument that it is God’s fault they were born gay.

I really like what the author of the article I reference above says regarding this.

Of all the untenable conclusions drawn from the born gay premise, this is the most scandalous. Whereas claiming that God has His hand in the creation of every child is uncontroversial, alleging that every element of that child’s physical, emotional and even sexual state at birth are all intended by God is quite another thing. If this pattern of inference were allowed, we would have to believe that God desires every birth defect, handicap, psychological disorder or behavioral tendency we can trace to early childhood. God may allow such things, but that is theological miles from saying that God wanted them.

Gay WeddingI would also pose a very simple but logical question to the argument that homosexuals are born gay: If being homosexual was acceptable in the eyes of God’s, being a perfectly natural relational and sexual option, don’t you think He would have given homosexuals the ability to reproduce as a result of engaging in sexual activity? You would think so if homosexuality was okay and a natural option to being hetrosexual.

However, we know that two men or two women engaging in sexual activity cannot reproduce and that only a man and woman have the ability to reproduce and have children. It is therefore quite logical to say that homosexuality is completely unnatural and not the will of God.

Some will argue that many men and women in sexual relationships cannot reproduce for one reason or another. However, that is not a solid argument as the functionality is there – something is simply broken. What you can never say is that two men or two women having sex have the ability to reproduce and have children. And why is that? Very simple – God never intended men to have sex with men and women to have sex with women.

This is why He established marriage as between one man and one woman. Jesus made reference to this in Matthew 19:4-6:

4. And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,


6. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” [NASB]

Romans 1:18-32 also clearly indicates how un-natural homosexuality is.

18. For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness,

19. because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them.

20. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.

21. For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened.

22. Professing to be wise, they became fools,

23. and exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man and of birds and four-footed animals and crawling creatures.

24. Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them.

25. For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.

26. For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural,

27. and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.

28. And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper,

29. being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil ; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice ; they are gossips,

30. slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents,

31. without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful;

32. and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them. [NASB – emphasis mine]

Here is what we can learn from this portion of scripture:

  1. The fact that God exists is evident within us (our sub conscience) and in creation itself. (v. 18-20)
  2. Many people refuse to honor or give thanks to God. (v. 21-23)
  3. Because people exchange the truth of God for a lie, He gives them over in the lusts of their hearts (v. 24-25)
  4. Homosexual behavior is one of the results of being “given over.” (v. 26-27)
  5. Additional results of being “given over.” (v. 28-31)
  6. Those who commit the indecent acts spoken of in verses 26-31, approve of those who do the same. (v. 32)

Now one might look at this portion of scripture and blame God for homosexual behavior because it was He who “gave them over”. However, you must remember that it was “the people” who sinned in the first place by not giving glory, honor or thanks to God – in other words, refusing to recognize who He really is. It almost paints a picture that if we refuse to acknowledge God, we are susceptible to any form of evil. There is still free will of course but it is almost like all restraints have been removed.

This is not to say that every person who refuses to honor God is going to become a homosexual, however this portion of scripture as well as the fact that homosexuals are not able to procreate is a clear indication that homosexual behavior is not natural and adds to the argument that homosexuals were not born in that state.

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  1. I do not believe that you are born gay,I believe it is a choice. Whether you were raised with all woman as a man, or you lacked a father figure you were malested or any other life changing event. Some will say they had a perfect life, and something changed being a christian who prays for my family daily and cover my children and family and friends in the blood of jesus daily, are you fully protecting your young against the demonic attacks of (satan) he will attack the young in order to obtain them for his kingdom, if my son came to me saying he was gave, I would still love him, but I can say that I could never accept that, knowing it is a sin. To think of never seeing my son in the kingdom of heaven, my heart could never take. I would pray and go into warfare for my son or daughters. The bible says ask of God and you shall recieve, I would ask God to bind that unclean spirit and cast it away. I know God can do all things.

  2. @Colton Smith – Your argument is based completely on the “assumption” that all gays feel like outcasts. Not all do, in fact many are quite proud. And you might want to open up yours eyes and have a look around because the world in general is pretty accepting of gays these days. It is now actually “popular” to be gay which in all reality is just another sign that our world is moving further and further away from a holy God.

    As far as scientific evidence, you might be interested in http://cwnewz.com/content/view/760/2/.

  3. Are you for real? You cannot argue about a topic like this and only use biblical evidence. That is dumber than saying people do not have scientific evidence proving that people are born gay. You think homosexuals chose to be gay? Where in anyones life has someone wanted to feel like an outcast and not wanted? Never! People dont want to be different! I have a gay uncle, a gay cousin, and a gay brother on one side of my family tell me how people do not see how this is not genetic. I have spoke to my brother about this issue and he has known he was “different” since junior high. He waited to come out till after high school because he was afraid of ridicule.

    When you get actual evidence then you might have an argument, but at the moment this article is pointless.

  4. To Jeff
    I know that God NEVER attacks anyone. People are being attacked by satan with temptations and certain feelings. And God CAN change your son. If you keep on asking and you truly believe that God can do anything including changing your son, then it WILL happen. It might not happen right away but it WILL happen sometime, and sometimes we don’t always understand why He sometimes doesn’t change things right away but He does have reasons that is sometimes beyond our comprehension. But never ever even think that your son was born gay (I’m not saying you do) because that’s definitely not what God intended. And NEVER EVER give up on asking God to change your son.

    I met a girl from India who didn’t know God and used to have a Christian neighbor who tried to tell them about Jesus and what He did for us. They didn’t really listen though. Then their neighbors had to move. 10 years later, the girl learned about Jesus in a Taxi and became a Christian and she came back to her parents and talked about how she got saved and then saved her family, except her father, who strictly didn’t believe it. But then, one night, he had a dream with Jesus in it. I don’t really remember all that happened in the dream but he KNEW that Jesus was real and that He loved him and got saved. A few days later, they met their old Christian neighbor from 10 years ago and told them how they got saved. He said that he had been praying EVERYDAY for 10 years that God would show up in their lives. God can do ANYTHING including changing your son. Never give up. The most important thing of all is never underestimate the power of God.

  5. I have come to the point where I DO agree with both opinions, or maybe I am so twisted and confused 🙁

    I had a father figure, never a motherly one. He was though and manly but I the age of 7 I fell attracted to my friend (boy) and did not know what it meant. I wanted to kill myself because, yes, close minded Christians persecuted me. I have begged God to change me, I have read article after article trying to find out what is going on with me. I love God, I don’t want to go to hell.

    I do not plan to engage in gay sexual activities because honestly NO that is not meant to be;

    My opinion: Being gay is not a sin because YES I was born that way, having sex with a man I believe is a sin, I agree.

    I hope God forgives me if I have said something that was offensive to any one in any way. I just need answers that I cannot find with peers or family since I am still what society calls “closeted”.

    Thank You

  6. @Adele Merri – You wrote, “I dont belive gods intention was ever to have his work interpeted so recklessly by narrow minded fools.”

    Interesting your use of the word “narrow” as if that was a bad thing to associate with Christianity and a follower of Jesus Christ.

    May I remind you of Matthew 7:13-14 (Jesus own words) –

    13.”Enter through the narrow gate ; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it.

    14.”For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it.

    So yes, I guess I am narrow minded, at least in scenarios where something does not align itself with what God’s Word says.

  7. I was browsing for opinions on the born gay theory to try and gauge its politcal effectivness for a research paper. I have to say this is the most terrible, intolerant article I have read so far, and belive me I have read many. The author of this should be ashamed of his/her work. God is love, acceptance, tolerance and patience. Some people like carrots and some dont, thats life. I dont belive gods intention was ever to have his work interpeted so recklessly by narrow minded fools. Twenty years from now your faces will redden with shame just as those who participated in the nazi regime eugenics program. People wonder why faith has no following these days, why so many stray from god. You have your answer listed above. You speak of Satan when he is clearly living in your own heart. Open your minds and open your hearts.

    – Adele Merri
    straight, practicing christian and active member in the GLBT community.

  8. @jeff – You say your son at age 6 decided he was gay or had gay inclinations? How old is he now and has he actually engaged in gay sexual relations?

    Reason I ask is because I recently came across a young man of about 20 years of age who felt he was gay, even came out on YouTube announcing he was a gay Christian. Come to find out that he had yet to engage in any gay sexual relations – he only felt that he’d prefer men over women.

    Furthermore I discovered that his biological father was completely absent throughout his entire life and that he was was raised by his grandparents, his grandfather being mostly distant and hands off.

    He therefore lacked any type of a father figure while growing up which is why he now has such a craving for male affection. At some point, he will have to choose whether to act upon what he is currently feeling. Hopefully he can form healthy male relationships without the need for sexual relations with them.

    That being said, children can have inclinations towards homosexuality for many reasons. Many homosexuals I have met for example were sexually molested as children. They could have also lacked any type of a father figure in their life. One must also remember that there is a real enemy out there (Satan) who works day and night to keep people away from God and in bondage to some type of sin.

    So Jeff, to succumb to the idea that your son maybe should have been born a daughter instead of a son is just wrong thinking. There can be so many other reasons for your son’s homosexuality besides the “I was born gay” argument which I think I have demonstrated pretty well in the original post above is faulty thinking.

  9. Why then would me being a christian, my parents, granparents also, then me having a son that is gay told my wife that he knew he was different at the age of 6-7. So that must mean God attacked a 6 yr old for his sin your saying. I’ve changed my stand about why people are gay. Children are born every day with missing limbs, diseases, exc. So why cant a child be born with a male body, but female cromizones. Fact, they can. Your whole thing about being gay is Gods judgment on children that dont know the difference then at 6-7 trs old. Your not the JUDGE of this subject. When you have no clue. Let GOD be the JUDGE and stop attacking some thing you know nothing about. Unless your a witness to it 1st hand. Besides my son loves the LORD and dont know why he has these fillings and knows hes different. So GOD attacks 6 yr olds now right. You need to do better reasearch on this before GOD judges you and cause people to fall away because of your accusations you know nothing about.

  10. Dave, thanks for the post. The point of homosexuals not being able to procreate is an excellent argument that homosexuality is at best un-natural, if not perverted. Let me answer Korinthian’s question he posed: “ … Also consider that they might have been thinking quite seriously whether a homosexual will get into heaven (any opinions on that one?). … “

    Dear Korinthian, if you care about the homosexual people you would tell them the truth if you knew it. As a forgiven sinner myself and a Christian, the true Word of God tells us the homosexuals will not get into heaven, just like you and I will not get into heaven unless we repent and accept Jesus’ sacrifice for our sins.

    1 Corinthian 6:9 “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders.”

    The good news is that God loves all people. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, Or his only begotten Son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life – John 3:16.”

    In the court of law if a person is found guilty s/he needs to pay to redeem themselves. In God’s eyes we all are guilty of sin, because we all have sinned (Rom 3:10). On the Judgment Day we all deserve to pay for our sins by going to Hell. However God loved us and HE provided to pay for our sins and settle the penalty that His holiness demands for sin – death of Jesus Christ on the cross. We need to believe and accept it, repent and turn from our sins by living as God’s children, not perfect, but forgiven. To deny this is to deny that there is a God and that the Bible is His inspired word.

    As a forgiven sinner, I am obligated to tell other sinners where to find forgiveness and redemption of sins, including the homosexuals.

  11. So refuting your points is regarded as “going around in circles” on this blog?

    If you think I repeat myself, perhaps you should try answering the questions and meeting the points.

    One interesting point you made is that you will hold on to your opinions no matter what anyone says. Is this the way of a rational human? It is quite the opposite.

    I also find it funny that you say that I am welcome to my opinions and then you say you will stop conversation if I do something that you only vaguely describe.

    Is this how christians debate? Hiding behind moderation? Don’t think that I am generalizing with you as the only example, but no christian blogs or forums seem to be willing to have an open discussion about their faith, and then at the same time they say that they HAVE actualy examined their faith with a critical eye.

  12. @Korinthian – You know what, arguing with you, Korinthian is pointless. You will just come back with something else (not only here but on several other posts). So I am done with it.

    You are welcome to have your opinions which many others share and I too will hold on to mine which many others, Christians and non-Christians share as well.

    The only thing I will refute which I already did (but you don’t listen) is your argument that homosexuals can procreate if they are having sex with someone of the opposite sex (bi-sexual). Okay you are correct on that but again, that is not what the post was about (bi-sexuals) and the fact remains that two people of the same sex cannot reproduce which is a pretty good indicator that homosexuality is not natural, nor is it God ordained.

    I’m leaving it at that. Any more “going around in circles” and I’ll consider closing the comments on this post.

  13. First of all, both the title, and the lack of criticism of this article suggests that you agree with what is said, so don’t hide.

    “They would all admit it was their choice to be homosexual and that they were not born that way.” – How about you find some people that do not belong to a religion that condemns their sexuality? The reasons to lie about this are abundant, as several testimonies to match your claims about christian ex-gays. How about you look up some secular gay/bi/trans groups and see what they have to say about it, instead of just allegedly ex-homosexuals? That would be more fair, wouldn’t you agree?

    “The reason why people come up with the “I was born this way” argument, whether it involves homosexuality, alcoholism or any other thing that some might be considered sin, is to escape responsibility for their actions. “If I was born this way, then it is not my fault.”” – Is this something your four(4) friends told you? What was your opinion about this before you had these talks with them, did it actually coincide with what you think afterwards? Making up reasons like these is quite moot if research does not support it, then it is just speculation.

    Consider the things these homosexuals would have lost had they confessed there were nothing they could do to change their homosexuality to conform with the beliefs of all their peers and their community. Also consider that they might have been thinking quite seriously whether a homosexual will get into heaven (any opinions on that one?). This is the reason I would like the opinions of non-christians that had little to gain by lying about their sexuality.

    “I have no idea what you mean when you say, “Nobody disputes that gay people can’t procreate (with each other), they *can* however procreate, as history can tell you.” Are you saying you have evidence two gay people made a baby?”

    Let me break it down for you:
    Gay person has sex with gay person = no baby.
    Gay person has sex with person of opposite sex = baby.

    “I also like the way you assume you know me claiming that I am against sex without the intention of procreation.”

    This is a reasonable assumption on my part since your( or the article’s) point against homosexuality is that it is not procreational. Sex with a condom is not ‘procreational’, and there you have my jump of logic.

    And regarding whether you are strange or not I leave for the people who know you to decide. I should however mention that if christianity wouldn’t be a religion and you said you believed that the bible was a holy book and that Yahweh had spoken/revealed himself to you, you’d be considered crazy. Safety in numbers, right?

    Your last paragraph seems to imply that me being a homosexual would make me something less than a human, and if I had been bi, even worse! I am in fact straight, but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t point out when someone is ont only wrong, but wrong bordering on bigotry. Why is being bisexual worse btw?

    I know for a fact, though, that you are heterosexual, since you seem to lack all kinds of insight on the subject.

    I also noticed how you dropped the point about RESEARCH faster than quick, why is that?

    And in the future, make it more obvious for what parts of an argument you actually agree with (and what parts are your writing vs the article’s), especially under a title claiming one of the positions as favored. That way there will be fewer misunderstandings about what you think on a given matter (which I am not totally sure about yet).

    Sorry about the somewhat late reply, I was out of town.

  14. @Korinthian – The “science has failed to affirm or deny this” was actually taken from the article I referenced in the second chapter of the post. And yes I have talked to several homosexuals regarding their homosexuality. In fact I know four people who were homosexuals, gave their lives to Christ and then turned away from that lifestyle and today are living heterosexual lives. They would all admit it was their choice to be homosexual and that they were not born that way.

    The reason why people come up with the “I was born this way” argument, whether it involves homosexuality, alcoholism or any other thing that some might be considered sin, is to escape responsibility for their actions. “If I was born this way, then it is not my fault.”

    I have no idea what you mean when you say, “Nobody disputes that gay people can’t procreate (with each other), they *can* however procreate, as history can tell you.” Are you saying you have evidence two gay people made a baby?

    Then you get just absolutely silly when you point out that bisexual people can have children. Yes they can in heterosexual type behavior but not with homosexual behavior. Please! You claim I am providing a strawman argument but you are just grasping at straws my friend.

    I also like the way you assume you know me claiming that I am against sex without the intention of procreation. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact it was God who created sex in the first place, for procreation, recreation and celebration. I do believe in limiting that to just one partner of the opposite sex and in the confines of a marriage. Does that make me strange?

    So your assumption is incorrect. Maybe I should assume you are a homosexual or even worse, bi-sexual because you defend homosexuality. However, my assumption may not be valid because you might not be homosexual at all but rather someone who simply likes to debate and argue.

  15. So that is how you dodge seriously meant questions: with dishonesty.

    So I will assume that you have not:
    * …talked to a homosexual about this topic, so you don’t have anything contradicting the bible.

    * …considered the implications of the fact that you think homosexuality is a choice.

    * …done any extra-biblical research (ie: read any actual science on homosexuality and it’s causes). Which means that you are in fact lying when you claim that “science has failed to affirm or deny” the question of people are born gay. (Didn’t Jesus say anything about lying?).

    Nobody disputes that gay people can’t procreate (with eachother), they *can* however procreate, as history can tell you.

    What you just did was to create a strawman argument to avoid answering a question (or several). Bisexuality is something you also would call “unnatural” (I assume), but there’s absolutely no problem of procreation there.

    Since you are seemingly against sex without the intention of procreation, are you also against birth-control pills/condoms/etc? If not, you are being hypocritical.

    And another thing that is insinuated in your original post (second last paragraph) is that morals come from belief in God, which is easily disproven (ask me how if you do not agree).

    And this whole “unnatural” argument is quite silly coming from someone who believes in talking snakes, parting of seas, world wide floods (millions of animals inside one boat), and *prayer*.

    If you still don’t think I am on topic, go read the title of this post, then read what you have actually written under it.

    And for the love of all arguments, be honest, you wouldn’t want an objective observer seeing the person representing Jesus lie, would you?

  16. @Korinthian – You ask, “What research on this matter have you actually taken part of?”

    However, may I remind you that this post really asks one question – If being homosexual was natural and endorsed by God, why are homosexuals not able to reproduce (have children) as heterosexuals can?

    Have I researched this? Yes I have in the fact that I have never heard of two homosexuals engaged in sexual activity ever procreating. Have you?

    As far a why a 14 year old boy would CHOOSE to become gay – I don’t know. I have no answers to this question as well as a myriad of other questions regarding why we people do the things we do.

    Still that has nothing to do with the topic of the post so I question you why you would want to go there.

    Let’s stick to the topic which again I remind you is the FACT that homosexuals cannot procreate while heterosexuals can. In light of this, anyone with common sense has to come to the conclusion that homosexuality is a completely unnatural process, one that God never intended for His creation to engage in.

  17. I’ve got some questions for you: Why would a 14 year-old boy choose to become gay, full well knowing that it would subject him to years of bullying?

    Have you ever talked to a homosexual about this, or are you just another heterosexual christian guessing about things you have no personal understanding of?

    What research on this matter have you actually taken part of?

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